Tea, Tissues, Tears and Tantrums - How to Embrace the Chaos

Real therapy isn’t always tidy—and that’s kind of the point.

Let’s be honest—when people think about therapy, they often picture calm music, softly lit rooms, and someone nodding politely while you say very profound things. And sure, sometimes it looks like that. But more often? It's tea gone cold, a pile of tissues on the floor, and the occasional “I don’t even know what I’m feeling!” mid-session meltdown.

Welcome to the mess. You’re in the right place.

Chaos is Not a Failure—It’s a Beginning

Whether it’s your third session or your thirtieth, you might find yourself crying, snapping, going quiet, or making a joke to dodge the discomfort. And that’s all welcome here. Therapy isn’t a performance. You don’t need to show up with tidy answers or emotional poise.

In fact, some of the most transformative moments come not when we’ve ‘got it together,’ but when we let it all fall apart—in a safe, contained space with someone who can hold it with you.

The Role of the Tissue Mountain

You’d be surprised how many clients apologise for crying. Or for rambling. Or for “dumping too much.” But here’s the thing: therapy is the one space where the rules are different. You don’t need to apologise for being human.

The tissues? They’re there for a reason. And they’re not a sign that something’s wrong—they’re a sign something’s finally being felt.

Tantrums in Adulthood

Yes, adults have tantrums too. (We just tend to call them “outbursts,” “shutdowns,” or “I’m fine” said through gritted teeth.) In therapy, these moments often trace back to old parts of us—younger versions that didn’t get heard, soothed, or seen. Sometimes therapy means making room for those parts to finally speak.

It can feel messy, awkward, or even a bit ridiculous—but it’s powerful. And it’s okay if it gets loud.

Laughter and Swearing Welcome

Tears and tantrums might steal the spotlight, but laughter has its place too. Sometimes the thing that unravels us also makes us giggle. Sometimes a bit of gallows humour is what gets us through. At Oasis Therapy, we don’t believe in shutting down any part of your experience. If it’s real for you, it belongs.

Swearing? Fine by me. Want to bring a sketchpad or sit cross-legged on the floor? Go for it. Want to rage-vent about your mum and then instantly feel guilty about it? That’s a whole session right there.

Embracing the Chaos = Embracing You

Therapy isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about coming home to yourself—even the parts you’ve tried to hide, dismiss, or control. Chaos might feel scary, but it’s often the doorway to something deeper: honesty, clarity, release.

So next time you feel a little ‘too much,’ too messy, too emotional—take a breath. Bring it into the room. Let it be met with compassion instead of correction. That’s where the magic happens.

Final Thought: If you’re looking for a therapy space where you don’t have to ‘keep it together’—where tea gets cold, tantrums get welcomed, and tissues get used—you’re not alone. Chaos is part of the process. And you’re exactly where you need to be, navigating the beautiful messiness of life. So, lean into it. It's allowed here, at Oasis Therapy.